The basic principle behind Tantric massage is one of surrender. Both the giver and the recipient surrender into the process. It helps in relieving blockages of different kinds be it mental, physical, emotional or spiritual.
Within us we are habituated in carrying so many traumas and preconceived notions around our genitals and our sexuality, that it often brings us negativity. So, the main purpose of tantra massage is to heal that trauma around our sexuality and make harmony within the whole body so that we can live life in its full potential of sex and super consciousness together.
The goal of Tantric massage is to enter into a separate state of consciousness where both the participants feel more energized and blissful.
“I got an erotic yoni massage and had the best orgasm of my life.”
I have a weird relationship to tantra. I find the spiritual or new age-y side of it a bit off-putting. But people promoting tantric principles or lifestyles take sex and sexual pleasure very seriously, and because of that I can’t resist looking into it.
Masturbating while visualizing balls of energy? No thanks. Open and sexually liberated people bringing focused attention to sex? Yes, please!
Recently, my research led me to yoni massages — massages focused on the vulva and vagina.
Tantric or Tantra massage is very relaxing by nature. Every part of the session will take you deeper into a state of relaxation, making it one of the best therapies to use when dealing with stress.
Tantric massage can be very exciting, but you will still feel utterly comfortable throughout the session. The sense of security allows your body and mind to fully relax and regenerate energy quickly. As a result, you can feel your stress – and the issues causing the stress in the first place – slip away.
Improve Sexual Drive and Energy
Tantric massage is also very sensual due to the sensual nature of Tantra itself. Among the many benefits you can enjoy from a session of Tantric massage is improved sexual drive and energy. As each stimulation is delivered across your body, you will feel your inner sexual energy developing exponentially.
Yoni massage or yonic massage is a type of Tantric massage that primarily focuses on the vulva and vagina, in the same way that Lingam massage focuses on the male genitalia. The massage is sometimes introduced as a method of relieving tension of the vagina.
Yoni massage allows you time to slowly explore your body in a more sensual way. It can also help women who have never had an orgasm and those who would like to achieve multiple orgasms. It can be very healing for those who have suffered sexual trauma in their past, because the approach and technique is all about giving to the woman—making her feel loved, cherished, worshiped, and honored.
The vagina is called yoni in Sanskrit and loosely translates to “a sacred space.” In Tantra philosophy, we approach the vagina from a place of the utmost love and respect. Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure, and to explore the sacred side of her sexuality.
Many women reach out and they feel they are too far away from my Jupiter address to schedule a session. Here is what a few have done to make it work.
Several of my sessions have been done after someone has driven a long distance – they are stressed from driving but usually relax right into the zone once the massage begins. The knowledge of the drive back is after the session stays in their mind though and can sometimes make it hard to get into the perfect relaxed state. I want everything to be perfect for your session, so this is what I recommend.
Several of my long-distance visitors take a room or an Airbnb for an overnight stay. This can break up the drive over two days instead of trying to do it all in one day. This seems to work out the best. I have had visitors from Orlando, Miami and even one who flew in from another state.
Several of them have booked an addition session in the morning of the second day before they have to leave to drive back. If I have the morning free, I am happy to do this. I can pencil it in my calendar and keep the next morning open just in case you decide to do this. You can decide after the first session.
I guarantee it will be worth the drive and the stress release will be much better if you don’t have to think about the drive back.
I also have a low-salt hot tub so usually after you arrive from the drive a 15-minute soak will bring you right into peacefulness. Another option is a quick shower to rinse off the road.
“James was very understanding and let me take my time until I felt comfortable. He predicted that I would feel better once we started – he was 100% right. James makes sure that the focus is all about you and he is EXTREMELY skilled with his hands.”
“The session was incredibly relaxing, and as predicted, my nervousness diminished quickly. As he worked his way over my body, I surprised myself at how quickly I could be turned on, and how much I wanted it – long before he was ready to give it. I won’t spill his secrets, but James knows what he’s doing. He takes his time, and it was amazing to feel this way. It really was all about me.”
Other than perhaps CBD oil, no other substance has received more headlines claiming super-healing powers than coconut oil. Dermatologists swear by its moisturizing powers, and health gurus proclaim its superiority to other oils in the kitchen. We know it’s excellent on your dry elbows and your sweet potatoes, but is it also good for your vagina?
While there are no current studies on using it specifically on the vaginal skin, women’s health professionals have found it effective for treating several kinds of vaginal issues:
Vaginal dryness. Commonly caused by menopause, breast feeding, stress, chronic infections, and medications, vaginal dryness can make intercourse painful. The easiest solution? Lubrication, and one of the best lubricants is coconut oil (yes, the same coconut oil that you use for cooking). Massaging a small amount into the vaginal opening before intercourse can reduce friction and pain (you can also reapply the oil after intercourse if you have burning or soreness afterward).
In additional to vaginal uses, coconut oil also is recommended by my lactation consultant for nipple soreness. My athlete patients also use coconut oil on their nipples to prevent chaffing.
While studies on coconut oil are sparse when it comes to the vagina, the dermatology data is reassuring, and the risk of using it is almost nonexistent. So, if you are dealing with vaginal dryness or other vulvar issues then coconut oil may help.
When turned on, the vagina naturally releases lubricants from multiple places to make sex more comfortable and safer.
There are two sets of glands that both expel fluids.
The Bartholin’s glands (named after the Danish anatomist who researched them) will excrete a lube like fluid that will help to make things slippery and very comfortable during sex. When foreplay gets you “tuned on” these will help to make things slick and wet. I can often tell during my “tantric foreplay” when things are ready for advanced simulation by the fluid that is visible on the outside of the vagina. Some women have more fluid than others but pretty much once it is present the vagina is prepped and ready for some attention. The glands are located just below the vagina opening.
The Skene’s glands on the other hand are located just inside and below the urethra (where you pee) and they can discharge a fluid (known as squirt or female ejaculation) which can be very slight or like a water fountain. Different amounts for different women. Most women who expel the fluids from this area report having the most intense orgasms during the event.
I have heard that about 33 percent of women produce the fluid (ejaculate) nearly every time they orgasm, and another 33 percent have never experienced it but can and the last 33 percent never have it happen in their lifetime. I don’t agree – I think that all women can experience this, it just takes the right stimulation and the willingness to allow it to occur. What I mean by that is many women have had the sensation that they were about to pee during sex or stimulation, so they held back or stopped themselves from letting go. Feeling they would be embarrassed if that happened during sex. Some have probably stopped themselves so many times that they have trained themselves to not allow it to occur. It is completely natural, and every woman should experience this at some point.
I always advise my visitors to pee before the session – if they feel like they are about to pee during stimulation – they know that they just did, so it is not that. I encourage them to push and allow it to happen. I have had tremendous success with this approach and have experienced everything from a small trickle to a full-on soaking experience.
The theory is that this discharge of fluids has antimicrobial properties which can protect against urinary tract infections. Basically, wash away bacteria. In India the word for this fluid is Amrita – meaning nectar of the gods.
Some women get a blockage of one of the glands which can develop into a Bartholin cyst. A bump the size of a pee or as large as walnut just under the skin of the labia. When I do my tantric massage, I always try to include the labia lips to gently stroke that area where the Bartholin glands are located under the skin. It is not known if this massaging actively has any clear health benefit but I know that it feels good from the reaction I get. I assume light rubbing there would help the flow and therein possibly avoid blockage.
The research is thin, but anecdotal experience suggests that the right dose and delivery method can make a positive difference for some people.
To learn more about cannabis and sex we turned to several experts, including a gynecologist who has surveyed women about their marijuana use.
The bottom line: It’s hard to say with certainty that cannabis will increase desire or improve your sex life, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the right dose of cannabis can make a woman’s orgasms more satisfying and increase sex drive. This is in part because cannabis can enhance the senses and also alleviate some of the symptoms that inhibit desire, like anxiety, sleeplessness or pain.
Lifestyle is a word used to describe people’s day to day activities, as above the definition taken from Oxford languages. But what are these lifestyles really?
Although a broad definition we can break the word down into several categories.
Adventuristic Lifestyle
Hedonistic Lifestyle
Individualistic Lifestyle
Promethean Lifestyle
ADVENTURISTIC LIFESTYLE
This tends to be characterised by new experiences. You tend to be constantly on the hunt for something new, whether doing or seeing new things. An adventuristic lifestyle is a continuous chain of surprises and learning experiences, you are ever pushing to experience and learn something about yourself and the world.
HEDONISTIC LIFESTYLE
This is more on the pleasurable side of life, you are all about the pleasures, let it be simple or big that is the drive of this lifestyle. Mainly characterized by hedonism (the pursuit of pleasure, self-indulgence), the ethical theory that pleasure (in the sense of the satisfaction of desires) is the highest good and proper aim of human life.
INDIVIDUALISTIC LIFESTYLE
As the name suggests this lifestyle is driven by one’s individuality, favouring the individual needs over those of groups.
PROMETHEAN LIFESTYLE
Taken from Prometheus, a Titan from Greek Mythology. The Lifestyle denotes one who is boldly creative or defiantly original in behavior or actions. Those that dawn this lifestyle, live to be extraordinary as they choose not to pursue the life the same way others do.
How are people coping with skin hunger or touch deprivation?
Studies show physical contact with other people reduces feelings of stress. Evolutionary psychologists say it can all be traced back to our monkey ancestry. Grooming each other’s fur is how apes build friendships. Humans have substituted that grooming with stroking and cuddling, he says and that act of physical touch has a profound effect on our health.
“Not only does it build friendships directly and indirectly, but those friendships have a dramatic effect on your well-being, your general health, your ability to recover from illnesses and even your longevity.”
So many rules about preventing the spread of the corona-virus warn against touching other people. Just as a stomach needs a proper amount of food to thrive, a human’s largest sensory organ has a need for physical contact.
What kind of effect does this lack of human touch have on people?
And stress can really shut down libido. Maybe it’s your libido, maybe it’s your partners; or perhaps both.
Further, pandemic stress isn’t any old type of stress. For many people, it’s financial stress, which is a type of survival stress and it can have a negative effect on your body’s ability or interest in touching. Survival stress sends the body into a state of fight or flight, so the only thing that matters is survival, not procreating; We become hormonally less interested in sex.
If you and your partner aren’t having sex but want to boost intimacy Sensual Touch can help. Intimacy has many forms.
If there was one thing Gillian knew, it was that she did not want a hole punch anywhere near her genitals.
So when, in 2018, a gynecologist recommended a vulval biopsy to check for signs of cancer, she hesitated. The doctor suspected that the whitish speck of skin that Gillian had found next to her clitoris was lichen sclerosus, a skin condition that is usually benign. To Gillian, a registered nurse, taking a chunk out of her most sensitive body part sounded a bit extreme.
But in the end she consented. He was a doctor; she was a nurse. She assumed he was the authority on this part of the body. “I never worked in OB-GYN before,” said Gillian, who asked to be identified by her first name to protect her privacy. “I was pretty clueless.”
Anorgasmia is delayed, infrequent or absent orgasms — or significantly less-intense orgasms — after sexual arousal and adequate sexual stimulation. Women who have problems with orgasms and who feel significant distress about those problems may be diagnosed with anorgasmia.
Among all women, the frequency and intensity of orgasms vary. Also, for any individual, orgasms can be different from one time to the next. The type and amount of stimulation needed to have an orgasm also varies.
Multiple factors may lead to anorgasmia. These include relationship or intimacy issues, cultural factors, physical or medical conditions, and medications. Treatments can include education about sexual stimulation, sexual enhancement devices, individual or couple therapy, and medications.
Female orgasmic disorder is another term for the spectrum of problems with orgasms. The word “anorgasmia” specifically refers to not being able to have an orgasm, but it’s also used as shorthand for female orgasmic disorders.
Often a husband shies away from making love to his pregnant wife because he believes she or the fetus could be injured. As it happens a pregnant woman’s libido is on the increase and not getting any attention in that area is not going to help her stress levels.
Masturbation as an alternative is nice but, being stimulated is much better.
Basically, the two words are the same and being used interchangeably in western vocabulary.
Tantra is one of the modern sexual buzzwords that is being used today to describe a more open approach to growth, enlightenment, life and living.
It’s the topic of many books, some are very simple and others show complex positions and breathing techniques, in fact almost every book written about sex today has a chapter on Tantra or refers to Tantra in some way. However, there is not much clarity on what Tantra or Tantric sex is all about.
It’s the dirty little secret of baby-making: After nine long months, you’re overwhelmed by the love you feel for your newborn — and shocked to find how much havoc that bundle of joy is wreaking in the bedroom. If you’re feeling less than lusty after having a baby, you’re not alone.
“It’s completely normal for both women and men’s libido to hit a rock-bottom low during the first six to nine months following the birth of your baby,”
You don’t need to throw your sex life out with the bathwater. Here are a few secrets to help you dust off your sexuality post-baby.
Focus on mindful meditation while being brought to Orgasm
For women who are not familiar, OM (orgasic meditation) is a sequenced practice in which one person gently strokes the other’s clitoris. The “stroking” allegedly activates the limbic system and releases a flood of oxytocin. Some say the result is said to be therapeutic, rather than sexual – but I say, if you are there why not go the distance.
While most of the trendy services offering OM charge hefty fees to experience and learn the Art of OM – my sessions are free of charge and no tip is required.
Massaging the Lower Back and Spine during Sensual Erotic Session
Spinal stimulation to awaken latent energies for sexual awakening and spiritual transformation.
What is Kundalini ?
Your Kundalini is your sexual and spiritual energy that lies usually dormant at the base of your spine. Once activated and coaxed upward it supports the unblocking of your chakras and the awakening of latent abilities in your body, mind and spirit.
