You and Your Orgasms
Hopefully, you already know this, but in case you don’t, clitoral orgasms come from clitoral stimulation on the outside of the vagina, while vaginal orgasms come from internal stimulation from your man’s penis, fingers, a dildo, etc. Many people believe that the G-spot inside your vagina is a separate entity, but recent findings have found that your clitoris is not just the little button on the outside. In fact, it is much larger; most of it is completely under your skin and inside you and, like an iceberg, just the top part is showing. G-spot climax most always comes from stimulation of the rest of your clitoris that rests beneath the surface.
Clitoral orgasms tend to be more common during intercourse, and less than half of women have regular vaginal orgasms during intercourse. Of the women who report having vaginal orgasms, many find them to be much more intense and satisfying than clitoral orgasms. For many women a single clitoral orgasm may leave the clitoris super-sensitive, and they may not want any more stimulation there. For most of them it is a one-and-done situation.
The Right Spots
Having a vaginal orgasm is slightly different for every woman. But basically, it comes down to three spots. Clitoral, G-spot and A-spot.
Some women can have one from general stimulation throughout their vagina from their man’s penis. They don’t need their partner to hit a particular spot. If you’re a man trying to make your partner orgasm, make sure to ask her to speak up.
Others need intense stimulation on their G Spot on the anterior wall if they want a vaginal orgasm. It’s located about 2 inches inside your vagina on the upper anterior wall, but for some it can be difficult to find. For many, it feels like a small rough spot with ridges like a walnut and for others it is just smooth skin. The size varies as well, so it could be any shape or size, but most commonly it is about the size of a quarter.
Some women need intense stimulation on their A Spot this spot also has other names such as the Deep Spot, Back Wall, or the AFE (anterior fornix erogenous) zone. This is on the interior wall of your vagina just like your G Spot, but it is deeper.
However, you might find other spots to be pleasurable as sensitivity in the vagina varies. Some of my clients have had intense orgasms from just touching their nipples after a long period of foreplay or just after other area orgasms.
I also have had experience with many women who do not like anything inside their vagina at all. Some have pain (usually due to not being thoroughly lubricated) and others just don’t get any pleasurable feelings from this area. For these women I try to concentrate on massaging the outer parts of the vagina and focusing on the clitoris. Most times just the tiniest tip of the finger just inside will work wonders. For some having a well lubricated finger fully inserted but not moving it at all, during the clit orgasm, can enhance the experience.
Finding out what kind of stimulation you need for an orgasm depends on your body and preferences. So, we’re going to need to do a bit of experimentation to discover what feels best for you.
A Yoni Massage provider may well be able to take you on a journey of discovery.