Yoni massage is a sexual tantra practice that involves massaging the vagina. In Sanskrit, it is called yoni, which loosely translates to “sacred space.”
Yoni massage allows you time to slowly explore your body in a more sensual way. It can help women who usually feel finished after one orgasm to achieve multiple orgasms, and it’s especially beneficial for women who have never had an orgasm. It can also be very healing for women who have suffered sexual trauma in their past because the approach and technique is all about giving—making the vagina feel loved, cherished, worshipped, and honored.
Yoni Massage
Set the Scene
I like to start with low light, comfortable table and some soft music. Soft warm towels wrap the body into a cocoon of relaxation.
Connect to Your Breathing
Remember to breath during the massage. I suggest slow inhale and soft exhale of air as you relax into the massage.
Warming Up
Start with a relaxing back massage to allow stress to fade away. Face down and relaxed breathing as I work on the back, shoulders, arms, feet and legs. The towel is moved to allow access to each area. At the turn-over you are covered with the towel again. Each area is revealed, and the massage begins to be more like foreplay.
A Few Yoni Massage Techniques:
1. Circling
I circle the external tip of the clitoris with the tip of finger to stimulate arousal, varying from smaller circles to larger ones. Alternating the pressure from light to heavy.
2. Pushing and pulling
Push down on the clitoris and make small push-and-pull strokes, and then slide the finger down the shaft of the clitoris. I do this on both sides of the shaft. Some people are more sensitive on one part of the clitoris than another.
3. Tugging and rolling
I lightly tug the clitoris, pull it gently away from the body by grasping at the sides and tugging back and forth. Also moving lower and tug the sides of the lips. Keep varying strokes from the top of the clitoris down to the lips. I also roll the clitoris, start by holding it firmly and rolling between the thumb and the index finger— a back and forth stroking motion with the fingertips.
4. Tapping
Using one or more fingers, I tap the clitoris in varying rhythms from fast to slow to learn what the body responds to most.
Yoni massage isn’t about having one orgasm. It’s about trying to feel more and more pleasure that will become waves of multiple orgasms throughout the massage.
Vagina Massage Orgasms
Three Types of Orgasm
Clitoral Stimulation
Various rubbing and vibrations all around and on the clitoris.
G-spot massage
To find the G-spot I curve the first two fingers like the letter C and slide them into the vagina. Feeling for a slightly ridged area at the top of the vaginal canal, located about an inch or two inside, behind the external clitoris. I then massage it by making a come-hither movement with curved fingers. I vary between fast and slow strokes. This can in some cases result in ejaculation or squirt orgasm. Occasionally I also massage the external clit simultaneously at the tip, or place pressure on or above the pubic bone.
About 33% of women can experience G-spot orgasm, another 33% can ejaculate during the Orgasm and a last group of about 33% unfortunately never experience it. But the last group usually can orgasm in other ways.
Back Wall Orgasm
This occurs when a long penis or substitute device (like a dildo) is thrusting against the back wall of the vagina. For many women this is an additional way to orgasm and for a few this is the only way they orgasm.
Every woman and every vagina is different. I try various different techniques during the tantric session to attempt to find the one or more that work for each woman. I have had excellent results if the woman is relaxed and open to these various stimulations. Sometimes a second session works better when the woman knows what to expect during the session and is more comfortable in the surrounds and with me.
I make sure to mix up all of the above and vacillate between stimulating the clitoris in various ways while also involving the G-spot and nipples. I rarely get to back wall exploration during the first session unless asked. Normally a more trusting second visit allows for the relaxing during deeper penetration.